Comments on: intriguing weekend links http://reesabrown.com/2011/11/12/intriguing-weekend-links/ the life and writerly times of Reesa Brown Mon, 21 May 2012 23:57:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Mary Bass http://reesabrown.com/2011/11/12/intriguing-weekend-links/#comment-5324 Mary Bass Thu, 17 Nov 2011 01:49:48 +0000 http://reesabrown.com/?p=1786#comment-5324 I am so terribly sorry about anyone who is terminally ill, especially a child. I am so terribly sorry about any parent who loses a child due to illness or an accident (which is what took my beloved daughter when she was 17) or whatever. My prayers are that parents who lose children -- which is the greatest loss of all and one that a parent never gets over -- will gain new wisdom in what life is about, will gain new empathy for others, and will gain new personal strengths to be able to keep on keeping on. I take exception, however, to the Dragon Mom's comment that, "like all great love stories, it is a story of loss". Great love stories, even those which include loss (and all of them do not) should lead those who have lived them to the deepest understanding of what REAL love is all about. Thankfully, I've lived and am living a primary great love story as well as a number of secondary ones. The love story I lived with my daughter, even though one of loss, was filled with so very much more than the loss of her. If all I chose to dwell on was the loss of her then she could not possibly still be alive for me; alive in my memories, in my heart, and in my spirit. And she is very much alive to me even after many years. The loss is not the focus. The life and the love are. I am so terribly sorry about anyone who is terminally ill, especially a child. I am so terribly sorry about any parent who loses a child due to illness or an accident (which is what took my beloved daughter when she was 17) or whatever.

My prayers are that parents who lose children — which is the greatest loss of all and one that a parent never gets over — will gain new wisdom in what life is about, will gain new empathy for others, and will gain new personal strengths to be able to keep on keeping on.

I take exception, however, to the Dragon Mom’s comment that, “like all great love stories, it is a story of loss”. Great love stories, even those which include loss (and all of them do not) should lead those who have lived them to the deepest understanding of what REAL love is all about. Thankfully, I’ve lived and am living a primary great love story as well as a number of secondary ones. The love story I lived with my daughter, even though one of loss, was filled with so very much more than the loss of her. If all I chose to dwell on was the loss of her then she could not possibly still be alive for me; alive in my memories, in my heart, and in my spirit. And she is very much alive to me even after many years.

The loss is not the focus. The life and the love are.

]]> By: Mom http://reesabrown.com/2011/11/12/intriguing-weekend-links/#comment-5295 Mom Sun, 13 Nov 2011 13:33:12 +0000 http://reesabrown.com/?p=1786#comment-5295 On Dragon Mom: She has shared the secret of parenting: "Parenting, I’ve come to understand, is about loving my child today. Now. In fact, for any parent, anywhere, that’s all there is. I love you On Dragon Mom: She has shared the secret of parenting: “Parenting, I’ve come to understand, is about loving my child today. Now. In fact, for any parent, anywhere, that’s all there is.

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